June 21, 2010

The right thing

Last Saturday, I attended the wedding dinner of an ex-colleague and his Korean bride.

When Kenneth told me, over msn, that he needed my address, I half-jokingly asked if he was going to send me a red bomb. He was. I was a little surprised as I have always thought him to be the kind of man who wouldn't settle down easily, or soon. He liked taking holidays, being on his own and doing things the way he likes to. Besides, he had dated this now-wife for not too long a time. In short, I didn't think marriage was on his cards. I expressed my surprise and asked him, 'Why now?'

His answer, though short and seemingly ambiguous, was about the best answer there can be to such a question like mine - 'I just feel it's the right thing to do now.'

Truly, who can answer why one decides to get married at the time one decides to? Bio-clock ticking? 'Old' enough? Parents pressurizing? Baby on the way? Bored of 'just dating'? A new level of relationship, a new phase of life? A trial, and hopefully, not error?

I've heard plenty reasons for getting married. After all, I've attended a good number of weddings of close friends. But, somehow... somehow, Kenneth's answer seems to be the best I've heard. I think that takes out the common fears and doubts on marriage - is he/she the right person, the One for me? Is this the person I'm destined to be with for the rest of my life? Perhaps, it's not about choosing the right person; it's about doing the right thing.

It's saying nothing, but saying so much at the same time. I can't really grasp it now cos I've never felt that way before. hahaha.. But, I hope someday, I can identify that feeling too. The feeling of just knowing it's the right thing to do at the given point in time. The right thing being, signing away some freedom and sharing someone else's parents.

Opps! I guess, I've got to relook into the definition of 'the right thing' first.

As for Kenneth and Sunny, I'm sure they did it right. Congratulations!

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 22:54